Caring for a parent or elderly loved one can be difficult. The reversal in the parent-child relationship is complicated. Difficult decisions, emotions, and stress can be challenging for all people involved. Here are some tips and advice for finding the balance in being a caretaker to a parent or elderly loved one.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
It can very stressful to care for a loved one in addition to living your everyday life. Today, help comes in several different forms. While an assisted living facility may be the right choice for some, there are also skilled nurses who can help for a few hours at a time. Additionally, concierge medical clinics, such as AIM Health, allow for 24/7 communications with your loved one’s doctor.
2. Respect your loved one’s desire
The reversal of the parent-child role can be difficult to navigate. While everyone has his or her own ideas of what is best, it is important to work together and find a common ground. Having conversations about health, independence, and the future all while respecting your loved one’s wishes is extremely important.
3. Discuss your role in your loved one’s medical decisions
Your parent or loved one is an adult so you will not gain automatic access to their health records unless they give permission. It is important that you and your loved one discuss your role in their health care. Gaining access to their health records can help you stay informed of your loved one’s health and how best to care for them. It can also allow you to freely communicate with their doctor and work together to take care of your parent or elderly loved one.
4. Find a balance
Talk with your loved one about setting some boundaries. It is important that you both communicate and express your desires. Intervening too much or too little can cause a strain on your relationship and increase emotions and stress. Talk about setting up a routine so both people know what to expect.
5. Understand this is challenging for your parent or loved one
Realize that your loved one is going through a major lifestyle change. They may no longer be able to do what they most love. Be there for them and understand that this is a challenging time for the two of you. Open and honest discussion can help both of you navigate this new chapter in your lives.
